The Christian love is shaped by the biblical concept of sacrifice. God the Father showed us His love in the incarnational and sacrificial work of His Son (Jn 3:16). Moreover, love is given to Christians by the dwelling of His Spirit in them when they believed (Rom 5:5). Therefore, true Christian love is not about satisfying the self, nor it is mere emotionalism.
Loving our enemies for instance, does not necessary involve having affections towards those who persecute us ( the context of Luke 6 for instance; the early followers of Jesus anticipated persecution). Nor does biblical love mean to pretend to have passion towards those who embrace sin and impose it on others ( think of all kinds of sin, may be this is a sort of hypocrisy). In our endeavors to win sinners to Christ, we should be cautious not to be no different from them. The downward spiral in the name of love is an easy way to go.
Rather to love our enemies involves caring for them and their souls, being able to serve them and to work for their true interest, despite our own feelings (Luke 6:27). In short, biblical Christians should not buy into the world’s perception of love, because we disagree with the world on the meaning, source, and the end of love. If we believe in the Bible authority, we should make it the fountain of our perspectives.